Hearing about people that have suffered from sexual abuse, discrimination, family problems etc does make me sad, but it makes me feel sorry for those that chose to keep their emotions bottled up inside - like they're scared to talk to anyone about it.
I have a friend who has gone through something like this just a short while ago, nothing to the extremity of rape but still some pretty horrible shit happened.
When this person had the confidence to tell me what had happened I kind of didn't know what to make of it all; I had never had someone come to me with a problem like theirs.
But with all these things there's certain "principles" that can be used to help get over the "fear", I know that each scenario is different but I know that if you apply the same idea to that scenario you'll get something that is tailored to your problem.
One thing that always happens when an emotional problem arises is the person's lack of acceptance to the problem...they believe that there was no problem in the first place aka denial. It's like a slap in the face (except when u get raped it's more of a thrust to the asshole), you know that it happened why can't you accept it for what it is? Obviously all the emotional ups and downs come with the event but i'm sure you'll know that the pain in your ass didn't come from wishful thinking.
So what happens after you've identified that you've had a problem? You confide in those that you trust!
This is where people get on some psycho tip, it was their lack of sharing. You know by talking to someone about your problems there's an emotional release...and that's how you grow stronger, by telling people you trust. Put it this way: If you were to bottle up your emotions to the brim until someone strikes a nerve, you're gonna cause some serious fucking damage (no pun intended).
There's nothing else you can really do except for ways that'll grow your confidence. It will take quite a while to fully overcome an emotional problem, but it's how fast you begin to take action that can cut that time down tenfold. Don't just jump back into your old ways of doing things asap, maybe your old ways wern't substantial to what you wanted, there's maybe things you want to change. In one of my newest blogs "A Better Me" I spoke about just doing the things you love in your life. What do you love to do? When you're recovering from a problem it's always good to do what you love, cause when you do something you love it's only the positive emotions that are sparked!
I'm going to quote Buddha (Canadian FloorMasters) when I say "The strong men learn to cry".
What's so bad about crying every once in a while? I never understood this whole "Society tells you to act tough, show no emotion" stuff but yet as soon as someone starts to cry it becomes a tip to start bullying someone? Most of the time occasions like that are caused from jealousy, insecurities or being too damn self-conscious. If you bully someone, which one are you - the jealous one, the insecure one or the self-conscious one?
*Signing Out*
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