Something else that I haven't totally got my head around is how people can be so narrow minded about life. To me, life is filled with what you wish it to be filled with. Kind of like a fish tank if you think of it in that sense - what do you put in a fish tank? Fish. What do you put into life? Everything that drives you to the purpose of your life. Everyone's purpose in life is very different from the next person; sure you could have similar interests but your PURPOSE is different.
What I hate to see though is people who don't try hard, and have some deadbeat job that shouldn't reflect anyone. You know?
Growing up during High School you really saw who worked hard and who didn't, you also saw those who didn't care about their future and those who did. Those who didn't work hard know who they are, but how many of those now have a fulfilled life doing the things they want to do (and I don't mean if they want to do nothing, they do)? While being surrounded by these people I was seriously losing respect for them; its's one thing to not be an intelligent person by nature but for someone to not give a f**k is something that I don't tolerate.
But I am a firm believer of turning your life around; whether it is only a part of your life that you need to sort out or if it's pretty much everything, I'm a believer in that success. It's like you always have the time to make up for your mistakes - just make sure you do!
Because I believe that everything will come my way, I don't see why it shouldn't with my mentality on life. If you're viewing that sentence and thinking it's negative and snobby and obnoxious, then I understand - but this also comes from a state of re-framing your beliefs and setting goals and conquering achievements. By being that blunt and by being that determined, that is how goals are achieved anyway. No half assing, no compromising for other things...you do what you need to do and you will get what you want (unless it's herpes).
But something I can never understand is why people have to be so negative? Sure negative sounds so vague, but in this case I am using the word to represent the emotional state that the person is in when conveying whatever it is they do.
Take an argument. Who do you think would win: The person who is shouting all the time trying to be loud and upfront, while sounding so weak and pathetic because of this? Or does the person who conveys the most dominant demeanor handle the situation with a calm tone and a mind as clear as pure water?
I'll explain from both sides:
The shouting:
To shout comes from a place of insecurity and disbelief in your neutral self to handle a situation. The person may feel that the louder they are the more presense they have; that's not a bad way to look at it, just that the logic behind it is wrong. To shout also comes from a perspective of harm, in which case the person shouting has been harmed emotionally because of something - so they feel the need to express this by shouting.
Looking more specifically at the emotional involvement in shouting, this emotion is always channelled differently through each person but there is two different "foundations". These two foundations are: Imbalance and Aggression and Calm and Collected.
If something is channelled to you and it emasculates you of a positive outlook then we feel compelled to show our distaste, it's natural to do so. But it is these people that do not know how to take control of this negative channelling; ok even if you can't make it totally positive you are still able to have a positive outside that masks a negative inside...but people can't even do that. So when this happens to them they feel shaken up and stirred, like this shouldn't happen to them; and when they feel this shouldn't happen they express their concern in a more aggressive manner.
When anything is channelled to you, these people have the ability to explore all possible perspectives and select the one they feel will interpret the scenario. It is these people that have full control over themselves and are able to have a fulfilled life because THE CHOICE IS THEIRS!!
When a scenario is presented to them they choose the route that gives them the least amount of pressure; the least hassle; the most available comfort possible; the ability to unleash the superior being!!
But back to the situation of the arguement, I still haven't spoke about the calm and superior dude.
The calm and superior:
The calm and superior come across like they own the frame, because they are at their most composed and not threatened by anything. It is because they don't feel threatened by anything that they are that calm and collected. They also have a larger balance of "Emotion vs Logic" and so the dominance increases.
Don't you not feel that those that come across as the most composed speak with the most conviction? Who needs to be loud and shouty when you can just be the dominant being; having this composed demeanor with a positive mentality; plus being the one in control is something we all wish for!
Now
Put these two opposite forces against eachother.
The shouting person starts first; pretty much going all out ranting on about something trivial but doesn't matter about the topic, they'll still shout and rant. But what does the calm person do? They show they're not affected and they keep talking in this superior tone, with no signs of shouting or strain, and tries to calm the situation down. But the shouty person is emotionally flipped by this, and keeps shouting because they don't know any better. All that the calm person can do is try and stay relaxed and find a tactical solution but the angry person keeps shouting. After a back and forth encounter the angry one thinks that walking away will mean he wins...but he was so far away from winning that it is beyond a joke! What the shouty person showed was that he was weak at the heart; not very good at thinking straight when emotionally targeted and cannot keep composed; while the person that was calm and collected showed that under any amount of shouting/pressure they can get through any situation.
But hey, this is only once scenario, there are many more that can still convey the same amount of willpower.
But do you see where I am trying to get at? If you have some sense of willpower you can build on it, we all can. If you want something achieved you have to be able to have the willpower to sit through the rain before you see the rainbow! It is when we are at our most discouraged that we are at our strongest.
Now, why am I saying all this? Well, a lot of stuff has happened to me that required me to just "Keep the Faith", and in reality that faith has kept me strong - and now things are beginning to happen to me. I'm beginning to see more opportunities arise and it feels great!
I have people that disagree with my way of thinking, or my logic rather...well that is being narrow minded. Explore all possibilities and you will be able to see something you couldn't see before. Never the master, always a student.
*Signing Out*
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